12-22-13 A day later. Honestly, I wondered if someone was playing with me. A good story true or not. In my mind’s eye, this pharmacist looks like Abby Wambach. A tall, strong woman of the Wonder Woman template. I will follow up and if she relates how this goes, I will share it with you.
Okay. I get at least a half dozen E-mails every week from pharmacists who want to share their story, but insist on remaining anonymous. I usually quickly reply with a “Thanks for the message” or “You don’t have to put up with that” or “At least stand up for yourself”. Occasionally, when the company is so close to being illegal, I give advice. Then, I get something like this. What do I say to her?
Dear Mr. Plagakis
I never write my complaints, but this really bothered me. Should I quit my job? I had to use the bath room after being on duty for four hours. I take HCTZ because I am a tightly wound woman and my BP tends to run high. I worked hard from 8 until noon and couldn’t hold it anymore. The technician got upset with me because we had people waiting. She is a very take charge tech and seems to think that making the metrics is her first job. We had already filled about 200 Rx and I needed to go, so I went without one more word. I did not hurry because this might be the only chance to get a break is what I was thinking. I washed my hands, threw water on my face and brushed my teeth quickly after I used the toilet stall. I put a handful of water on my head and massaged. Not a problem since I wear my hair short. I arranged my clothes, even pulling my underpants up tight. I buttoned my blouse and was just puttimg on my white jacket when I heard a voice.
“So this is what you do when you have 20 prescriptions on the counter to be checked.”
I actually jerked I was so shocked. A female assistant manager was standing in the door of the farthest toilet stall. ”Have you been watching me? Have you been there all this time?” I stepped toward her. She stepped back. I am no wilting violet. I was on the field hockey team in college. Title IX taught me that it is okay for a woman to be physically strong. ”How dare you spy on me.” I pulled the stall door open and demanded that she get out.
“I’m just doing what I was told to do.”
“Who told you?”
Phil is the store manager. I grabbed her arm. ”If you try this again, I will……..” I didn’t know how to end that.
“Phil is the store manager”, Brenda said like Phil was Jesus Christ. ”Let go of me. You are hurting me.”
With a clear head, I know that I should have just gone back to the pharmacy, but I didn’t. I squeezed her arm and twisted and I loved that she sat down on the floor, actually plopped down on her butt, pretty hard. “Spying on me in the bathroom has got to be against OSHA.”
“You always take too long and Phil wanted to know why. I didn’t do anything wrong.” She struggled, but I just squeezed tighter. ”Let go of me, you.. you dyke.”
That did it. I like men. Okay? I enjoy being big and strong. When men talk with me at the club, they are always respectful. I am NOT a lesbo. I lost control and slapped her. She started to cry and I slapped her again. You know, a simple bitch slap. I didn’t want to hurt her really just embarass her. When I let go of her arm, she ran out of the women’s room and I could hear her screaming down the hall. I looked in the mirror, took a deep breath and said to myself, ”What did you just do?”
I went up to Phil’s office then and demanded that he apologize. He laughed. I didn’t expect anything else, but I wanted to be proactive. Now I am waiting. I have the weekend off and not one word. I don’t know what to do. If I get fired over this, I am going to catch Brenda somewhere and scare the crap out of her. I don’t think I will beat her up, but she is going to think that is what is coming. Maybe, I will beat up Phil. He is a punk night school tough guy who brags about his flag football days. I have two inches on him and probably 20 pounds.
Thinking like this makes me worry that I really am a lesbian. Do straight women ever think like this? Please help me JP. I have been worrying all weekend.
I do not know what to tell her. I did advise her to watch this spot. You guys might be able to help her out.